They have both moved many states away, so gift-giving is remote, and we are rarely present when gifts are received. Sadly for us, we get no acknowledgment or any form of a thank-you.

But communicating your funeral wishes in writing is one of the best gifts you can give your survivors.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband recently passed, and I sent thank-you notes to everyone who gave a monetary gift or sent flowers. Are thank-you notes required to those who attended the wake services ...

When Kori insisted on bringing the funeral home a thank you gift this spring, Warmka said he was expecting a token such as a gift card for lunch.